I'll Call This One: Life Goes On.

“Life goes on” is probably my favourite line these days. I say it to myself often, and I say it to other people too. It reminds me not to dwell in self-pity, especially when it comes to situations I simply can’t change.

To give you some perspective: over the past two to three years, I’ve been deeply hurt. By life, by situations, by people. I’ve felt disappointed, offended, worried about the future, overwhelmingly sad… even suicidal at times. I’m not exaggerating. And I didn’t just feel those emotions; I sat in them. I let them define whole seasons. There were times I simply couldn’t see a way forward. I stopped believing in myself.

But through it all, the only one who truly kept me going was (and still is) God. There were times when I said to Him, “I don’t know what I would do without You.” I recently told a friend, “I’ve experienced life with God, and I’ve experienced life without Him. I know the one I’m recommending.” When I say life without God, I don’t mean I stopped believing. I mean I neglected my relationship with Him. My spiritual life was dry. And let me tell you: even when life with God comes with some challenges, with Him, everything is better, and you just know everything will be okay.

But I digress.

What do I mean when I say, “Life goes on”? It means that no matter how heartbroken, confused, or disappointed you are, life doesn’t stop. You lose a job? Life goes on. A friend betrays you? Life goes on. A relationship ends, someone you love passes away, you failed a course, made a huge mistake? Life. Goes. On. It doesn't wait for us to catch up or heal. In that way, it can feel unfair.

So, here's what I’ve learned: pick yourself up as early as you possibly can.

I know, I know that’s easier said than done. Trust me, if someone had said this to me when I was at my lowest, I might have rolled my eyes. But I’ve lived it. I know that staying down is one of the devil’s greatest joys because he has more room to sow lies: that you’re not enough, that you’ve missed your moment, that your life no longer matters. Lies.

Another mistake I made was not forgiving myself. I blamed myself. I didn’t love myself and I lacked self-respect. But life has taught me, and is still teaching me, to do better. Just last week, I found myself crying over something I thought I was already healed from. And instead of being frustrated, I had a moment with myself. A kind of internal dialogue, where it felt like the 2022, 2023, and 2024 versions of Dokuboba sat with 2025 me and said, “Look how far we’ve come.” 

And I have come far. Emotionally. Mentally. Spiritually. And by God’s grace, 2026 me will be even more healed, even more whole.

When I realised that life truly goes on, something shifted. I no longer wanted to waste my life or time being sad about things or people that are not part of my future. I desired joy, purpose, to live. I don’t want life to pass through me; I want to be a light to someone else. And if it’s taken me three years to get here, I pray someone reading this won’t take as long.

No situation is worth your sanity. No human being is worth that kind of stress. You are loved, worthy, and called. Believe in that.

Believe in yourself.

The Bible says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose.” — Romans 8:28.

You are never truly disadvantaged. Even what the enemy meant to harm you, God can turn around for your good. The things that were meant to break you, God can use them to build you. Take the lesson, learn from it, and, as hard as it may be, move on. And move on joyfully. Don’t feel guilty for healing. Forgive yourself. Let go of what (or who) needs to be let go of. Pray. Get in the Word. Surround yourself with people who lift you up.

Because here’s the hard truth: even if you stay stuck in the pain, the world will keep turning. That friend who betrayed you? They’ll move on. That job that let you go? They’ll hire someone else. The person who broke your heart? They won’t be coming back. The money you lost? You might never recover it.

Here’s the good news: when you choose to go on with your life, God will fill it with new and beautiful things. He’ll give you good friends. A better job. A love that brings peace, not pain. Financial doors will open. Opportunities will come. But you won’t see any of that if you stay stuck in yesterday.

So, yes, life goes on. And so can you.

With grace, 

Dokuboba.